Dear Adviser, I am having a really serious problem right now. I bought like the cutest little pomeranian at the mall thinking she would be a great dog to, you know, like, hang out in my purse and to take selfies with. I thought we were going to be like besties and inseparable but instead it turns out she is like a total bitch and I don’t just mean she is literally a female dog. She already destroyed one of my Coach bags. She pooped all over my parent’s house and she growls at me all the time. I want to get rid of her ASAP but I have already posted her all over Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and even Linkedin for some reason. I don’t want people to be all like “what happened to your dog? She was so cute” or whatever. How can I send her to the pound without looking like a total monster?
Dear Adviser, I have the worst romantic luck of anyone I know. I have never had a successful and happy relationship despite dating my whole life! All of my breakups have been terrible including my divorce six months ago. I don’t know what to do. Maybe the problem is me? I am the common denominator here. Why do I pick such horrible men and what can I do to stop it?
Dear Intelligent Advice, I really want to be an Instagram model; the girls on there have such beautiful and glamorous lifestyles, but I have no idea how to go about it. I follow my favourite bloggers for #goals, post once a week and promote myself online, but I’ve only got 400 followers, and most of those... Continue Reading →
Dear Adviser, This time next week I will be moving to America. I have spent the past 5 years of my life in a refugee camp. I was finally selected for resettlement in the United States and am equal parts excited and terrified. On the one hand I feel like I can finally hit the “unpause” button on my life and start living again, secure in the fact I have a home. On the other hand I hear all of the accounts of xenophobia and immigrant scapegoating happening in America right now and feel that I will not be welcomed there and may eventually face some of the dangers I did back home. What can I do to fit into American culture?
Dear Intelligent Advice, I’m unhappy with my appearance: I look in the mirror and I’m never satisfied with what I see – I look bad in all my clothes, and nothing seems to suit me or flatter my figure. I’m not hideously ugly; some... Continue Reading →
Dear Adviser, This is my senior year of high school and everyone expects me to start college next year but I don’t want to. I want to take a year to go off and see the world. How can I convince my parents this is a good idea so they won't freak out?
Dear Adviser, Two months ago my boyfriend proposed to me. Initially I was so excited about getting married and starting our life together. Since then I started planning our wedding and the whole thing gives me a headache. No one in our families can agree on anything. Everyone is already fighting about costs, location, invitees. Part of me feels like I should just go off and elope and forget the whole thing but I feel like I owe it to my family to have a nice ceremony. What should I do?
Dear Intelligent Advice, My new year’s resolution was to get more into positive thinking and mindfulness as an attempt to live my best life. I recently attended a seminar on challenging negativity and one of the key ideas is that if you put out positive energy into the universe it will come back to you. I try to practise positive visualisation every day; imagining myself being successful and happy – but the problem is my shitty job and bad relationships haven’t changed, and the daily minutia and drudgery of my existence continues to depress me. Yesterday, my power got cut off because I couldn’t pay my electricity bill, despite the fact that I’ve been channelling good vibes and trying to look on the bright side of life. What am I doing wrong? How can I end this cycle of negativity and become a more positive, spiritually enlightened person?